The reason that ego and love are not compatible comes down to this: you cannot take your ego into the unknown, where love wants to lead. If you follow love, your life will become uncertain, and the ego craves certainty. You will have to surrender to another person, and the ego prizes its own will above anyone else's. Love will make your feelings ambiguous, and the ego wants to feel the certainty of wright and wrong. Many other experiences that cannot be comprehended by ego apply to love- a lover is confused, spontaneous, vulnerable, exposed, detached, carefree, wondrous, and ever new.
Love's journey would be terrifying if we didn't have passion to give us courage-the blind courage of lovers, it is often called. It would be truer to call it the blind wisdom of lovers, because the ego's certainty is an illusion. Uncertainty is the basis of life... "
~ Deepak Chopra, The Path to Love
