The Blind Wisdom of Lovers

"...only love can free us because the truth is the antidote to fear. The cynical claim that what people really want is money, power and security falls apart once we look deeper. The exhilaration of falling in love is an escape from ego, its sense of threat, and its selfishness. The escape is what we really want. Whatever rewards it brings, the ego cannot do two things: it cannot abolish fear, since ego is founded on fear; and it cannot create love, since ego by definition shuts out love.

The reason that ego and love are not compatible comes down to this: you cannot take your ego into the unknown, where love wants to lead. If you follow love, your life will become uncertain, and the ego craves certainty. You will have to surrender to another person, and the ego prizes its own will above anyone else's. Love will make your feelings ambiguous, and the ego wants to feel the certainty of wright and wrong. Many other experiences that cannot be comprehended by ego apply to love- a lover is confused, spontaneous, vulnerable, exposed, detached, carefree, wondrous, and ever new.

Love's journey would be terrifying if we didn't have passion to give us courage-the blind courage of lovers, it is often called. It would be truer to call it the blind wisdom of lovers, because the ego's certainty is an illusion. Uncertainty is the basis of life... "

~ Deepak Chopra, The Path to Love